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8001 B.C. Update

Sometimes you’re never completely sure about a change of direction until you’ve already committed to it.

I took a while on a business trip lately to re-write  the work-in-progress that I’d originally titled THE TIME TO DECIDE.  Which is posted– the 1st eight chapters– in the sidebar category to your right.  It’s now entitled (again, tentatively) DAYS OF DECISION.

Anyway, I decided to switch from a narrative told in the 2nd person (which, admittedly, is a rare usage) to the far more conventional 1st person, and I’m pleased with the change.

It had been sorta recommended to me by a local high school teacher who teaches an ethics class, and whom I’d given the opening 2 chapters to present to his class.  He (and they) found the 2nd person difficult to understand, and if they couldn’t get it, I was clearly “failing to communicate.”

If you’d like a copy of the revised version (it’s still only 17,000 words– I’m projecting 50,000 for the finished product), just give me a holler at john@thankgodyourealive.com.

And again:

THANK GOD I MADE THIS CHANGE BEFORE I’D GONE ANY FURTHER!

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TOYOTA~thon

I’m not that much of a “car enthusiast.”  My family owns three, but we use them to just get from place to place, not to have fun.

But I was up early this morning, and so I turned on the TV and caught not one, but three different news reports on Toyota’s accelerator-pedal/recall dilemma.  Including one about a man who died simply pulling into a parking lot (when the car zoomed out of control and hit a wall).

It’s times like these when all you can say is:

THANK GOD I DON’T OWN A TOYOTA!

When’s it ever gonna be enough?

The Baltimore Ravens beat the New England Patriots yesterday at Gillette Stadium, 33-14.

Once upon a time, I called the Gillette Company in Boston to ask them: when was foamy shave cream invented?  (I don’t remember why I wanted to know.)  And they had no answer to that.

Anyway, that made me reflect on all the shave-cream ads I saw on TV as a kid.  The model always put the shave cream on about a 1/2 inch thick– at least.

Leading to the obvious question: What good would that do?  Anything above the direct surface of the skin would be complete waste.

But the point of the commercials was to train us men to use 1/2 a can of the stuff, every time we lathered up.

THEREBY SELLING MORE PRODUCT.

Just another example of our society reinforcing the need for over-consumption.

Pick your own example.

Which leads me to the obvious thought:

THANK GOD I USE AN ELECTRIC RAZOR THESE DAYS!

It’s always something…

Christmas in Aspen.

It seems like just about every year some blame fool or other decides that he’s gotta make himself unhappy for the holidays.

At least this time there were no guns involved.  Just a switchblade.  (Who doesn’t travel without a switchblade these days?)

I know that Hollywood publicists insist that there’s no such thing as bad publicity, but serious jail time’s gotta trump simply being out of the limelight for a week or two.

Whatever happened to just being happy, with friends and family?

My favorite, from many years ago, was when the Caribou Club instituted a 2-bodyguards-per-person rule for the holidays.  Seemed that the club was getting a little too cramped with folks having too big of an entourage.  Especially when the bodyguards are packing serious sidearms.

All I can say is:

THANK GOD I DON’T HANG OUT WITH THOSE KINDS OF PEOPLE!

My mother always said…

thanks

 

“You know, it wouldn’t kill you to get down on your knees occasionally.”

(cartoon courtesy of the Friendly Atheist.)

Thoughts, on the morning commute.

thelma

It’s been two weeks since I inserted a brief note about some disappointments one of the kids was having to deal with.  In that short time, they’ve basically managed to fade into the cosmic background noise.  (As in: I can’t even remember what they were, exactly.)  And that’s as it should be:

Remember: There may indeed be an end of the world, but it doesn’t have to be today.  Today, as Ernie Banks used to say: “Let’s play two!”

I’m constantly reminded of how little we really need to keep up with the news.  A.k.a.: The Ephemeral.

Have you read the news stories about all these (supposedly tons of) parents who are upset that the President of the United States will be taking time from his busy schedule to address our nation’s schoolchildren?

On the one hand, it seems completely idiotic that anyone would object to a role-model adult calmly advising a child on the importance of a good education.  (Unless you’d prefer your child to grow up suspicious of thought.  Always a possibility.)

And on the other hand, why should anybody else even care?  Don’t we all have better things to do?

If not, you can come over and paint my fence.

On Compromise

the heiressMy wife was watching “The Heiress” (Paramount, 1949) on Turner Classic Movies a few weeks ago, but couldn’t stay up for the whole thing.

So  I went online looking for it, to see when it might be on again…

Turns out: It’s a movie version (and not the first) of Henry James’s novel Washington Square.  Olivia DeHavilland and Montgomery Clift.  I didn’t watch it, but from what I gather, it’s about:

Young woman falls for a dashing young man, who’s clearly interested in her only after discovering that she’ll inherit millions, once her father dies.  The dad (Ralph Richardson), of course, sees through it all right from the start, but he’s powerless to convince his daughter of the young man’s insincerity.

I found myself thinking that, in Henry James, it’s always all about nuance.

In the sense that, given an imperfect world, we’ll never marry someone who’s perfect, so one must choose one’s mate based upon degrees of good and bad.  Good and bad qualities, good and bad characteristics, a mixture of good and bad behavior.  I guess: what you’re willing to tolerate.

In a way, it’s a belief that life is always a compromise.  You want rich: you might have to settle for not-so-handsome, or not-so-interesting.  You want love: you might have to live in a garret.  Life’s always a trade-off.

And so the trick is to discern the subtle degrees of acceptability.

With Jane Austen, in the end it’s always all about love.  Finances, pedigree be damned.  But in the real world, Henry James’s world, you’ve got to choose between various imperfect creatures, and so you’ve got to be able to juggle a very complicated ”algorithm.”

Which leads me to the basic point of the new book I’m working on, The Time To Decide.

I’d think that we’d all agree that certain situations or actions are totally unacceptable.  Like slavery.  Racism.  Enforced inequality of the sexes.  The list doesn’t go on and on, but there are certain societal actions, certain institutions which are flat-out wrong(by today’s standards, not by yesterday’s or perhaps tomorrow’s), and about which one simply shouldn’t compromise.

How do you compromise over genocide?  How do you compromise over forced child prostitution?  How do you compromise over… not letting a colored family move in next door?

The argument of the new book is: We’ve gotten so accustomed to all the various excuses/explanations/justifications for one human killing another, that we’ve come to accept the  reality of everyday murder (or whatever name you want to use for any particular instance) without once questioning whether there might be an alternative.

In the book, you’re presented with an alternative scenario:

What if human beings, 1000′s of years ago, had collectively decided that the conscious, willing taking of another human life… was simply unacceptable.  Ever.

So much for “compromise.”  So much for “nuance.”  Is this “a pipe dream”?  Is this “utopianism’?  Is this “naiveté”?  So was racial equality.  So was gender equality.  So was freedom of speech, for that matter.

Ideas are of their own time.  Slavery still exists (travel in Africa if you don’t believe me), but as the economic necessity for it and as alternative political systems render it blatantly shameful, it’s practiced only out-of-view of the wider world.  Racism still exists, even more obviously, but one can hope that it, too, will fade from moral/ethical ”fashion”.

So why not killing?  Why are we still so thoughtlessly willing to accept the fact of everyday killing, as if there were no alternative?  (Much as the pharoahs wouldn’t questioned slavery.)

Why is killing still a basically human default?  The knee-jerk solution to conflict?  And when will that begin to change?

Assuming that it will change, someday, when exactly are we predicting that will happen?

And is it gonna happen all on its own?

Chapter 3 — … And You Still Haven’t Decided.

Chapter Three

… And You Still Haven’t Decided.

 

And it didn’t end there.  (Now, wasn’t that a surprise?)

You’d no sooner gotten back to your side of the river, with three dead bodies, than you were assaulted by your own people’s demands for vengeance.  You tried to explain that you’d ventured over there with purely peaceful motives, and you think their tribe’s chief would’ve met you on those terms, but you hadn’t counted on being followed.  By braves from your own tribe.

And look what happened, everyone said.  Those barbarians across the river can never be trusted!

But…

You tried to think of a convincing rebuttal, but there was no point.  Three young braves were dead, and the rest of them were screaming for blood.  So you’d really only made things worse.

Fortunately, it was getting dark, so you managed to stall long enough for everyone to simply get tired and go to bed.  (After you’d given the dead young men their proper, respectful burials.)  And as you finally laid down in your own hut for the night, you could feel pretty sure that your young braves wouldn’t run off and attack across the river without your leadership.  (Or at least without your permission.)

So, for the first time in many nights…  in weeks… you fell into a deep, profoundly peaceful sleep.

Which was something, you had to admit.

*

But now it’s several months later.  It’s autumn, and the strangers are back on the riverbank, approaching you with outstretched arms of friendship, of comradeship, and you still don’t have an answer for them…

Because the decision wasn’t any clearer when you awoke the next morning.  Actually, it got even harder.

Yes, you’d managed to calm everybody’s lust for revenge.  There was hunting to do, and crops to be tended, so you figured out ways to keep the young men busy.  Which kept their minds– temporarily– off of killing, off of “revenge.”  And eventually life in the village returned to “normal.”  But underneath all the routine, there was an unease that announced that, somehow, life had changed.  For better or for worse, no one could tell, but somehow something had changed.

The unease was like constantly looking over your shoulder.  Maybe the men from the other side of the river were going to attack you.  It’d happened before, unexpectedly.  (Just as your people had done many times before, to them.)  And you didn’t want to be caught unprepared.

Maybe something else bad was going to happen.  Everyone– you included– seemed to have an uneasy sense of foreboding.

You consulted with your uncle, who was the village shaman.  He sensed it, too, but he had no answers.  Not even any decent guesses.  You could’ve asked him to make something up– your father had done that often enough, you knew– but you didn’t even know what to suggest.  So life just went on… uneasily.

And then one day, it happened.

It couldn’t have been more than a week later, and up from the riverbank came a hue and cry like you wouldn’t believe.  Because a sizeable party of people had been spotted fording the river, and they were heading toward the village.

But they weren’t a screaming band of marauding warriors.  They were a dozen older men– walking slowly, without weapons– and as many women.  And a very old woman, and a small child.

The child was being carried on a pallet by four of the men.  The old woman, the headman’s mother (whom you recognized even from a distance), seemed to be hovering over the child.

And them yes, you recognized the headman himself.  The woman walking at his side must’ve been his wife.  What the hell was all this?

Well, you soon found out.

Your first reaction was to worry about how your own warrior-braves were behaving.  A small group of them had rushed down to the riverbank, and they were yelling and gesticulating menacingly at the (obviously) meek band of visitors.  So you rushed down, yourself, and ordered them to stand off.  They moved back, grumbling, but wouldn’t go back to the fields, where they belonged.  It was harvest time, after all, and they had better things to do (you’d think) than harass a few innocent old people and a sick boy.

By the time you got back to your “visitors,” your mother had the situation well in hand.  She and the other chieftain’s mother– the two medicine women for their respective tribes– had taken to each other like sisters, and they’d ordered the men to take the small boy to the large hut your mother used for treating ill members of your tribe.  This would not be received well by some of the hotter heads among your people.  (You noticed that most of the women and children were milling around, shifting suspiciously, not missing a single move these two old women made.)

You exchanged a wary glance with your lifelong enemy, the other tribe’s chieftain, but you both waited to approach each other until your mothers came back out of the “healing hut” and told you what they were up to.

Finally they appeared– together, as though consulting each other was the most natural, time-honored thing in the world– and solemnly motioned both of you two men to join them inside your own hut.  (You were mildly surprised when your mother callously shooed your own wife, and a couple of the kids, outside so that the four of you could be alone.  And you could hear the indignant muttering from the restive crowd outside the hut, once your wife was out there with them and undoubtedly complaining about the lack of “respect” she’d been shown.  Oh well.)

Inside the hut, the two old women sat down beside each other, and motioned for the two of you men to sit opposite.  Almost touching. Your mother did most of the talking.

Quietly, she explained the situation to you.

This little boy, who looked to be about five or six years old, was indeed sick.  By the looks of it, he was showing symptoms of rheumatic fever: a really high fever, wrenching stomach pains, violently jerky muscle movements, but scariest of all: swelling and inflammation in the large joints (knees, elbows, ankles) that somehow “migrated” from one joint to another every few hours.  As if he were somehow “possessed.”

The boy, by this time, was sweating, shivering, moaning and muttering in his confused sleep.

All of which was nothing you yourself (with no medical background) hadn’t seen before.  Unfortunately, you’d seen dozens of children die before.  Of this (and other equally frightening, unexplainable) diseases.  That was life, circa 8000 B.C.

But, your mother quietly explained, this boy– and his fate– was different.

This boy, apparently, had been singled out by his tribe’s (the ones across the river) shaman.  On the day of his birth–

– No, the other woman corrected her.  Actually, even before that:  His birth had been foretold.  By signs.  Signs the shaman had recognized.  (And feared.)

This boy, at any rate, was special.  The shaman couldn’t be more specific, but this boy was somehow special.  Whether he was destined to grow up to be an earth-changing figure– a never-before-seen great leader, a bringer of unheralded healing powers, or some other sort of wonder worker– or whether it was merely his birth that was a unique sort of “sign,” this boy (the shaman had said) must be protected at all costs.  Beyond the care that any normal child would receive.

And now he was ill.  Seriously ill.  On the brink of death, if his fever continued on the same path as other children the old women had seen.

You turned to your lifelong nemesis, who was now sitting here (in your hut, inches away from you) for corroboration.  And he nodded his head.  What the old women said was true.  It wasn’t just some old-women’s superstitions at work.  The shaman had spoken true:  The boy, somehow, was a herald, an outsized hero-to-be, a once-in-many-generations avatar of greatness, of change, of hope.  Even being near him– even at his young age– one could feel it, sense it.  It was unexplainable, but palpable.  There was “a presence.”  An aura of elevated spirituality about the boy…

So he must be cherished.  Nurtured.  He could not be lost.  He could not be allowed to die.  Or even to grow up weakened in the heart, as the old women knew could easily happen to those who did survive this disease.  He must be saved, at any cost.

Which is why the headman had taken the extraordinary step of crossing the river and appealing to your mother for help.

It had been an enormous risk.  An unarmed party of old men and women fording a river into enemy territory, was just asking to be slaughtered.  So call it foolish, were it not so desperately required.  There’s been no alternative.  Your mother’s knowledge of healing herbs and remedies was clearly something powerful enough (in the other medicine woman’s opinion) to merit taking this odds-defying chance.  And they’d pulled it off.  They’d gotten here, the two women had met and conferred, and your mother seemed to know how to proceed.

Thank the gods.

Which left you and the other headman on your own.  Uncomfortably together, and unsure how to proceed next.

Because the two old women were clearly going to be spending all of their time in the healing hut with the boy.  The special boy.  And the chief couldn’t just up and leave.  Turn tail, now that his ward had been delivered, and run along home.

So, for the time being, you were stuck with each other.

Here’s Another Literary Guy With Something To Say.

vonnegutGot a comment from “Zashkaser” recently, to the effect that sometimes we simply don’t wind up fulfilling our destiny.

Also mentioned that she could appreciate the distinction between “fate” and “destiny.”

Which, for some reason, led me to think of yet another literary fellow.  This time: Kurt Vonnegut.

You could view him as proclaiming the pointlessness of existence, or you could see him as simply acknowledging that we humans are– just possibly– just not that important.  To our apparently perpetual chagrin.  Not that what we do– or don’t do– with our lives doesn’t matter.  But, in the “grand scheme of things,” it’s really not all that critical.  (Which doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t attempt to do anything.  It’s just that the Universe will probably not collapse if you– personally– forget to put out the trash tomorrow morning.)

One of my favorite insights of his was:

Look at it this way: 500 years ago, the smartest men on the planet didn’t know that the other half of the planet even existed.  And the people in that second half hadn’t even gotten around to inventing the wheel…  And we have the gall to call ourselves “homo sapiens”?

(Sort of like:  Were the Fabulous Thunderbirds fabulous, right from the get-go?)

Bare Minimum Standards: Public Behavior

16107364_7ba8056163_mWe’re all on this planet together, and you’d think there’d be some basic groundrules we could follow, to all get along…

So the other day, I’m in a crowd of several hundred people, standing outside a Chopin/Brahms/Liszt piano recital (which would presumably cater to properly-brought-up people), when I run into a couple I’ve known for quite a few years.

The woman greets me effusively, asking about my son, who’s a close friend of her son’s.  And I answer, breezily enough.

And then I turn to “the boyfriend,” and he’s turned into the evil side of a Jeckyl-and-Hyde movie: beet-red complexion, facial muscles constricted, fists clenched.  I’ve never seen the guy this way before.  (And I never want to see him that way again.)

So I innocently (naively) ask, “Is something wrong?”

At which point he gets right up into my face, snarls at me, “Yes, something’s very wrong,” and spits out (among other things), “I don’t appreciate the way you look at my woman.”

And I’m not being punked, here.  This is for-real.  (And I haven’t even seen this guy for six months, maybe a year.)

Well, to make a long story short, I wind up apologizing.  For god knows what.  And disengage myself– politely– after offering to shake the guy’s hand.

My wife and my daughter (who asked me what’s wrong, after I’d rejoined them, and to whom I’ve relayed the highlights of the encounter) and I sit through the first half of the program and then go home, cuz I’m too stunned to even enjoy what I’m listening to.

And I find myself wondering a question you hear all the time from parents (directed at their children):  “Now, is that any way to behave?”

Conclusion: If you’ve gotta act out some cowboy-movie fantasy, wherein you’re the hero and some unsuspecting sap has to be your fall guy, please leave it in the privacy of your own psyche.  It doesn’t play well, out-of-doors.  Or in some innocent bystander’s face.

(But you know what the late Steve Allen used to say: “There’s nothing more dangerous than minding your own business.  You hear it all the time: ‘He was just standing at the bus stop, minding his own business…’  “She was in the grocery store, minding her own business…’)